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…introvert minds worry too much…

Apparently talking about your life or your problems is bad and nobody wants to hear about it and if you do share something personal people are going to talk behind your back and even laugh about it. I seem to forget about this or probably I don’t care enough about it because I realize that I can’t stop talking about things that I shouldn’t talk about.

Like you know when your kid does or says a super embarrassing thing that might make people think that you are just a bad parent? Yeah…I share those a lot.

Also, sometimes I talk about some personal problems with people that have really no connection with me whatsoever…maybe we are coworkers but that’s about it.

So you know when someone asks you how was your weekend and you start sharing every single detail. Most of the time people just want to hear that is was fine and that’s it. They don’t really care about what you ate or where you went or that your cat peed in your clean laundry. No! People want to hear : it was fine, and yours?

The thing is that I’m socially awkward and I know it. I never know what to share and what not to share and when to stop. Sometimes I share things and after, my introvert mind keeps me awake worried that I might have said something that will make people judge me. I simply don’t really know how to stop being awkward.

I suppose writing about me makes me feel that I’m normal and that other people are probably like me and it’s probably ok and most probably nobody really cares and nobody judges me and nobody thinks that I’m such a strange caracter. Or at least I hope they don’t.

So can my introvert mind stop worrying so much already?

CB.

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Introvert…anxiety…socially awkward…

Me to the doctor: I’m fine. My moral is just fine. I mean now I’m in a good mood and something small can make me go crazy mad. But I mean, that’s normal right?! That’s what happens to most people no? But I’m fine.

I think to myself why the hell can’t I stop talking lol. I also think how awkward I am and how strange my doctor probably thinks I am.

Doctor: …. πŸ˜πŸ€”πŸ˜πŸ€….

Me: I’m fine. Seriously….πŸ™„

Introvert…anxiety…socially awkward…

CB.

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Small talk…no thanks!

Morning comes and getting out of bed is really hard. The cold weather and the dark mornings don’t help the mood either. Most days waking up every morning is hard enough but preparing to be outdoors it’s even harder. Especially when you are not a morning person and especially when you absolutely hate small talk.

This ‘good morning’ touches your ears as soon as you stepped into the office and you can’t help but think ‘what’s so good about it and…can you freaking do something else but wait for me around the corner?’. Then it starts: the weather talk, how was your weekend, what did you eat, your feet are tiny, barely have hair, ohhh look you have a heart on your shirt. And so on. Every single day, every single morning. It became your daily nightmare.

Why can’t I just be? No small talk, stop judging my appearance and don’t talk to me unless necessary. Thanks!

CB.

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Boys and girls are equal! And so are women and men!Β 

As a woman I struggle sometimes in this society. I feel the pressure outside and even at home. Depending on where you live in the world, being a woman is more or less difficult but it’s never easy. This article is not to victimize women, is not even to pity them. This article is to bring awareness, is my way of trying to make our world a better place for all genders. If you feel offended by anything that I share feel free to never come back on my page. My intention is not to offend anyone but to write about the subject from my point of view and maybe change the perspective of some.

When a group of people opens the discussion about women I try to stay calm. Most of the time I try not to speak. Not because I don’ have an opinion about the subject, but because I have a too strong of an opinion about it.

I am often asked if I am a feminist. What is feminism anyways?Β The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.Β The previous sentence is the simple way of describing feminism. But please don’t stop there. There is so much more to it than just one simple sentence. There are thousands of words to be read and understood about feminism. But if we stay to this simple sentence: ”The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.”Β Β then yes, I think I am. And shouldn’t we all be? Shouldn’t we all want equality of the sexes? Oh, but that is a strong subject with many strong opinions about who is stronger and why the strong cannot be equal to someone that is less strong than they are. See how I used the word ”strong” so many times? It is because that is one of the words that comes very often in discussions about feminism. Women cannot be equal to men because they are not as strong. Why do we have to measure equality between sexes with the word “strong”? I will let you think about that for a minute.

In today’s society everywhere we look we see books, videos, movies, songs, articles, etc about women that suffer. In so many TV series women suffer while men are in power and they are somehow the reason of their suffering. TakeΒ The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret AtwoodΒ for example. If you watched the series or if you read the book you saw the great suffering of women. While I was intrigued by the story and I enjoyed watching the series and reading the book, it made me think a lot. My only concern is that not many people actually think about the subject itself but simply enjoy the story like any other story without a great significance. This tale is actually a strong message that is passed on to humanity. This story is telling us so much about the way women are treated (or were treated, if you are lucky enough to live in a country in which ‘equal rights’ happen between sexes). I hope with all my heart that when people watch this series they actually take some time to think about the subject, about how this actually reflects our society.

There are so many other examples to take into consideration. Unfortunately the differences between men are women are implemented in our brains since we are new born. You know that memes that show the dad with a gun ready to shoot the boy that goes out with his little girl? You know that boy can have his heart broken as well? Why is the dad of the boy not carrying the gun? You still don’t know the answer? Here it is: because the little girl is considered weak and she needs her dad’s protection while the little boy is supposed to be strong and tough it up. Do you think that is normal? If you do, I believe you have to open your eyes and look a bit at the women in your life. They are stronger than you think. We all have our hearts broken at least once in our life. It’s part of being human. Maybe you should think twice before you share that meme with your friends in the future.

The moral of the story is that women are as strong as men.Β That can’t be!Β you will say.Β A woman can’t carry the heavy grocery bags like a man! While you can be right with that, here is an example that can change your perspective: A woman can carry a child, or two, or three or even more at a time. A woman can pass through birth and great pain and recover to take care of her family. A woman is working as hard as a man at a job place and she deserve the same pay, the same treatment. A woman ‘should not be allowed to vote, to drive, to go outside by herself’ it should be a normal thing to do like a man does it. A woman and a man are both humans with different qualities that put together can make the world a better place. Feminism should not exist. Because women should not have to fight for sexes equality. Sexes equality should just be. I wish I could live the day when that happens. Unfortunately I think it went from bad to better (again, depending where you live in the world) but we still need a lot of work to reach the top. One thing that you can do towards sexes equality: treat girls as you treat boys! Raise girls by showing them that they don’t need their dad with the gun but that they can take care of themselves just like boys do. Or show boys that they can be heart broken too and it’s ok to cry about it. Boys and girls are equal! And so are women and men!

Material to read/watch:

Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher

Not Without My Daughter by Betty MahmoodyΒ 

Princess: A True Story of Life Behind the Veil in Saudi Arabia

Audrie & Daisy

Thanks for reading!

CB.