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Parents.. between work and perfect kids…what society wants from us

Helle there! πŸ–

It’s been quite some time that I didn’t write something that is not book related. So today it’s going to be about how I’m failing at being a mother.

About 9 years ago, when I had my babies, twin boys, nobody told me how hard is going to be. As a matter of fact, about two months after giving birth I kinda realized that I’m on my own and that is when I also realized that depression hit me hard. I wanted so bad to be a good, caring mother but my mind and body were not really listening to me. 9 years later, after reading a bit about parenting, I realized that the first years of life are the most important in the emotional development of a child. Well guess what?! The first years of my boys life I was a disaster, which probably means that I screwed up their emotions.

Or did I really?! πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€”

Lately, I’m starting to put so much pressure on myself that I feel I’m getting overwhelmed. Parenting articles and books are probably made with the best intentions, but is it really possible to apply their advice in real life? Of course we all want a stress free life for us and our children but reality is that life is kinda made with stress. It’s up to us to deal with it however, there are moments when the pressure is so high we might break under it. πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

So is it possible for me to stop thinking that I screwed up as a mother when books and articles tell me exactly the opposite? I don’t know! I just think that society in our days puts so much pressure on parents that it is only normal for us to fail big time. We must work to provide for them though we must also give them time and help them with school and projects.

I suppose that I’m writing this because I feel that I’m failing as a mother but that could be only because society wants too much from me. And I wonder if people around me feel the same?! I see other moms working long hours, saying that they go home to cook and clean and do homework with their kids until late at night but do they really?! I have days when I can’t function once I enter the house from all the exhaustion that the long working day left over me.

What I’m trying to say to you parents is that you must stop living by the rules that others invented for you. You do your best to raise good kids while working full time, not necessarily by choice. Life is hard enough, it is not necessary for us to put more pressure just because some author thinks that you have to be stress free 100% of the time so your kids don’t become traumatized adults. I prefer to show my kids that it’s ok to have emotions and how to deal with them than tell them that they can do everything at the same time even though they are exhausted.

I’m mostly expecting reactions from parents. No offense, but if you don’t have kids you can’t opinion because you are not in a position in which you can understand how hard it is to be a parent. πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ˜Šβ€ … How do you deal with being a parent these days?

Thanks for reading!

CB. πŸ§šβ€β™€οΈ

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I am a girl, a woman, a mother trying to enjoy life as much as I can. This is a personal blog with and about books, life, introverts and more. πŸ“–πŸ‘©β€πŸ’ΌπŸŒŸπŸ§šβ€β™€οΈ

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