It’s been so long that I’ve been on WordPress that I’m not even sure if I know how it works anymore. It’s strange when you have a blog that you have to maintain. You see, every day I think about things that I could write about and I actually create these amazing articles in my head, only to give it up once I have a spare minute because I am too tired, or probably just too lazy.
There is a question that pops up in my mind often:
Do people still read blogs?
There are so many blogs out there, with so many different topics. While I enjoy reading and I really like to learn new stuff I find that my time is so limited that I tend to speed read when I’m on a blog. It’s not fair for bloggers that put so much hard work into their articles, but if I do it, do others do it as well? I guess it doesn’t matter because in the end writing, for me, is more like a therapy session. Sure, I could write a journal, but for some reason it doesn’t make the same ”ahhh” effect (maybe I do need a bit of attention 😀 ).
After a lot of thinking, the topic of the day will be: Why do women change their last name after marriage. And, should they?
The more years pass, the more I realize that I am becoming more…feminist…I write it like this because I am not sure if I am a feminist but what I do know is that there are many, many things that happen in our society and in the world, towards women, that really bother me. And this thing with the name changing came in my news feed (on Facebook yes! 😀 )so many times this week. I know, most probably because I responded at one article, Facebook decided to show me more of this, just to see when exactly will I explode 🙂 . The thing is that I’ve seen so many comments from women my age and even younger that defend this name changing after marriage like there is no tomorrow. The comment that bothered me the most was something like: changing your last name after your husband makes you a family!
I’m there reading all these ridiculous comments and yet this one sentence made me so mad. Really! A last name makes you a family? A man last name makes you a family? As in, you don’t need love, respect, care for each other…if you have his last name you are a family! So much garbage!!! So of course, I could not help myself and I made a comment about how not a man last name makes the family but love does. And I also wrote that I would never take my husband’s last name and that my kids have both our names, especially because having kids made me suffer (physical pain) and I think that it’s not fair that our kids be recognized as his kids only. One girl decides to tell me how she has more important problems to deal with in life so changing her last name is not such a big deal. Well, it is a big deal! It is a huge deal!!! Because why do women have to give up things all the time for others? Why do us have to change our names? Why can’t they change it? So, just to make it clear, there where men that were saying they changed their names and it’s ok with them. But then there were others that were saying that if a woman doesn’t want to change her name, or even worse 🙂 he has to change his, that means that he is not a real man.
I am so fed up with this male egos BS! I am so fed up with this world in which men have the power because they are…men…just because they have a penis they can decide for women! I am so fed up with this and I wish more women wake up because only by us saying NO, enough is ENOUGH! things can actually change.
But things won’t change, because I am just a small person that tries to make the world a better place and apparently just one small person can’t do much alone. Or can she?
“It is very hard to be brave,” said Piglet, sniffing slightly, “when you’re only a Very Small Animal.”
Rabbit, who had begun to write very busily, looked up and said: “It is because you are a very small animal that you will be Useful in the adventure before us.”
― Benjamin Hoff, The Te of Piglet
I guess, a small person can change the world, and the proof is all the amazing women that one small step at a time changed the life of future women for the better. And while I thank them every day of my life for being able to vote, and drive, and work, and be independent and not having to change my last name after marriage if I don’t want to, there are many other women that forget that women died to defend the liberties that they have today. They take these women’s lives for granted, they take their sacrifices for granted and that makes me sad and upset. So wake up women! And if you want one last name for your family, do it because YOU want it too, not because the man next to you decided it for you!
Thanks for reading!
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