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Changing the world, one small thought at a time…

Hello everyone!
It’s been so long that I’ve been on WordPress that I’m not even sure if I know how it works anymore. It’s strange when you have a blog that you have to maintain. You see, every day I think about things that I could write about and I actually create these amazing articles in my head, only to give it up once I have a spare minute because I am too tired, or probably just too lazy.
There is a question that pops up in my mind often:
Do people still read blogs?
There are so many blogs out there, with so many different topics. While I enjoy reading and I really like to learn new stuff I find that my time is so limited that I tend to speed read when I’m on a blog. It’s not fair for bloggers that put so much hard work into their articles, but if I do it, do others do it as well? I guess it doesn’t matter because in the end writing, for me, is more like a therapy session. Sure, I could write a journal, but for some reason it doesn’t make the same ”ahhh” effect (maybe I do need a bit of attention πŸ˜€ ).
After a lot of thinking, the topic of the day will be: Why do women change their last name after marriage. And, should they?
The more years pass, the more I realize that I am becoming more…feminist…I write it like this because I am not sure if I am a feminist but what I do know is that there are many, many things that happen in our society and in the world, towards women, that really bother me. And this thing with the name changing came in my news feed (on Facebook yes! πŸ˜€ )so many times this week. I know, most probably because I responded at one article, Facebook decided to show me more of this, just to see when exactly will I explode πŸ™‚ . The thing is that I’ve seen so many comments from women my age and even younger that defend this name changing after marriage like there is no tomorrow. The comment that bothered me the most was something like: changing your last name after your husband makes you a family!
I’m there reading all these ridiculous comments and yet this one sentence made me so mad. Really! A last name makes you a family? A man last name makes you a family? As in, you don’t need love, respect, care for each other…if you have his last name you are a family! So much garbage!!! So of course, I could not help myself and I made a comment about how not a man last name makes the family but love does. And I also wrote that I would never take my husband’s last name and that my kids have both our names, especially because having kids made me suffer (physical pain) and I think that it’s not fair that our kids be recognized as his kids only. One girl decides to tell me how she has more important problems to deal with in life so changing her last name is not such a big deal. Well, it is a big deal! It is a huge deal!!! Because why do women have to give up things all the time for others? Why do us have to change our names? Why can’t they change it? So, just to make it clear, there where men that were saying they changed their names and it’s ok with them. But then there were others that were saying that if a woman doesn’t want to change her name, or even worse πŸ™‚ he has to change his, that means that he is not a real man.

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Four (4) things that I learned after my thirties … that changed my life

Being an adult is not always easy. I don’t know about you but when I reached my adulthood I was so lost and I had no idea where to turn or what to do with my life. Apparently we are supposed to be prepared somehow, probably by our parents, for what it is to come after we turn 18 years old. We should know by then what we want to do in life, which path to follow and most importantly we should have an idea of who we are.

I didn’t. None of the above. I was as lost as I could be. I am not blaming my parents for it. Maybe they didn’t know how to help me or maybe they just didn’t know they have to. Maybe they were too busy following a path of their own. I don’t know. Maybe I should blame them. But I don’t. What I did instead it was just moving along in life-like I had an idea of what I was doing. I was simply living because I didn’t know what else to do. I thought I wanted to go to university and be a psychologist but I didn’t go. Instead I went and study something that I hated and was really bad at it but guess what…I never finished my studies. Later, in my thirties, I went back to school and I have a diploma now, but it’s not like I feel more fulfilled because of it.

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Why reading is important…πŸ’•πŸ“–

Hello all! πŸ˜ŠπŸ€—

Today is Saturday and normally this means more time for reading. I say “normally” because in my weekend life if I want to read I literally have to close myself in the bedroom and tell everybody in my house not to open that door unless the house is on fire. 😏 They never listen though, so the door is opened and closed until I give up my reading time and spend some quality time with them…aka Netflix.

I believe that all humans have a specific thing that they must do to relax. If someone says they don’t, it’s very possible that they did not discover it yet. My thing to do when I want to relax is reading. There is a magical moment that happens when I open a book. It’s like I’m being automatically transported in the imaginary world of the book. I can’t help it, it happens to me every time I read. Sometimes, when life becomes very hard to handle, escaping the reality for a few hours is quite comforting. I feel like I come back with new forces, ready to fight whether demon decided to enter my world. This is what reading does to me. So no, when people in my house decide to disturb my reading time, I’m not very happy about it. πŸ§πŸ™πŸ˜ Continue reading “Why reading is important…πŸ’•πŸ“–”

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Kindred Spirit…write a letter to free your soul…πŸ’•

Hello there,

As I’m lying in my bed thinking about how my life turned out to be so different than what I thought it would, I’m thinking about love and how it feels to feel loved. I forgot about this feeling. I can’t remember those butterflies and those feelings when my heart skips a beat or the anticipation of seeing the loved one.

While I’m contemplating about everything and nothing at all I remembered about the Kindred Spirit mail box. πŸ’• This is a mail box in North Carolina, placed on a beach full with letters of any kind. The box doesn’t belong to anyone in particular and there is no mailman that comes to pick up the mail. You go and either read the letters or write a letter of your own and leave it there. I wish I could go and visit, it sounds so romantic and so deep and inspiring.

I did find however a Kindred Spirit mail box online. πŸ˜ŠπŸ€— I found it by browsing Nicholas Spark’s website and it’s full with amazing letters. Some are so emotional that made me cry like a baby. Others are so full of hope and love. But what really amazed me is to read so many letters for the “first love”. There are so many people out there still thinking to that first pure love and still thinking to the “what if…” It breaks my heart to think that so many people remained all their life with this regret.

If you want to read the letters or write a letter of your own here is where to go: Kindred Spirit Online . You can be anonymous so feel free to put down all emotions that you feel like are holding you down.

Thanks for reading! I hope you live a life full of love…

CB. πŸ§šβ€β™€οΈ

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#bookreview … Every Breath by Nicholas Sparks

Every Breath

Every Breath by Nicholas Sparks

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I finished this book this morning and I feel that I need some time to recover.

While at the beginning of the book, Nicholas Sparks mentions that this is based on a true story, by the end there is a slight twist of events. I am a bit disappointed but thinking that I know of a true story which shows that this kind of story is possible I regained my confidence that somewhere in this world this type of love is actually possible.

While reading, I fell in love, I smiled, I cried and I was terribly heartbroken. I felt a twinge of jealousy at this love so pure and so sincere. This type of love is probably almost impossible or it happens to few people in the world. I like to think that I’m wrong and that this love can actually exist and stay even after the years pass and the routine settles.

Hope and Tru are the couple that makes you wonder if you ever loved even if you think you did. They are so perfect together, they are so perfect that it makes your heart ache. I felt a bit upset with Hope thinking that she is making so many mistakes, but I remembered that in the end she is human and we all make mistake, and we all have regrets.

I can’t wait for a movie. I really loved this book. No wonder Nicholas Sparks is my favorite author. He always make me live the story like I’m part of it. I definitely recommend this book. You will not be disappointed. And, I believe a trip to Kindred Spirit is a must now. πŸ˜ŠπŸ’•πŸ“–

Thanks for reading!

CB. πŸ§šβ€β™€οΈ

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Boys and girls are equal! And so are women and men!Β 

As a woman I struggle sometimes in this society. I feel the pressure outside and even at home. Depending on where you live in the world, being a woman is more or less difficult but it’s never easy. This article is not to victimize women, is not even to pity them. This article is to bring awareness, is my way of trying to make our world a better place for all genders. If you feel offended by anything that I share feel free to never come back on my page. My intention is not to offend anyone but to write about the subject from my point of view and maybe change the perspective of some.

When a group of people opens the discussion about women I try to stay calm. Most of the time I try not to speak. Not because I don’ have an opinion about the subject, but because I have a too strong of an opinion about it.

I am often asked if I am a feminist. What is feminism anyways?Β The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.Β The previous sentence is the simple way of describing feminism. But please don’t stop there. There is so much more to it than just one simple sentence. There are thousands of words to be read and understood about feminism. But if we stay to this simple sentence: ”The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.”Β Β then yes, I think I am. And shouldn’t we all be? Shouldn’t we all want equality of the sexes? Oh, but that is a strong subject with many strong opinions about who is stronger and why the strong cannot be equal to someone that is less strong than they are. See how I used the word ”strong” so many times? It is because that is one of the words that comes very often in discussions about feminism. Women cannot be equal to men because they are not as strong. Why do we have to measure equality between sexes with the word “strong”? I will let you think about that for a minute.

In today’s society everywhere we look we see books, videos, movies, songs, articles, etc about women that suffer. In so many TV series women suffer while men are in power and they are somehow the reason of their suffering. TakeΒ The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret AtwoodΒ for example. If you watched the series or if you read the book you saw the great suffering of women. While I was intrigued by the story and I enjoyed watching the series and reading the book, it made me think a lot. My only concern is that not many people actually think about the subject itself but simply enjoy the story like any other story without a great significance. This tale is actually a strong message that is passed on to humanity. This story is telling us so much about the way women are treated (or were treated, if you are lucky enough to live in a country in which ‘equal rights’ happen between sexes). I hope with all my heart that when people watch this series they actually take some time to think about the subject, about how this actually reflects our society.

There are so many other examples to take into consideration. Unfortunately the differences between men are women are implemented in our brains since we are new born. You know that memes that show the dad with a gun ready to shoot the boy that goes out with his little girl? You know that boy can have his heart broken as well? Why is the dad of the boy not carrying the gun? You still don’t know the answer? Here it is: because the little girl is considered weak and she needs her dad’s protection while the little boy is supposed to be strong and tough it up. Do you think that is normal? If you do, I believe you have to open your eyes and look a bit at the women in your life. They are stronger than you think. We all have our hearts broken at least once in our life. It’s part of being human. Maybe you should think twice before you share that meme with your friends in the future.

The moral of the story is that women are as strong as men.Β That can’t be!Β you will say.Β A woman can’t carry the heavy grocery bags like a man! While you can be right with that, here is an example that can change your perspective: A woman can carry a child, or two, or three or even more at a time. A woman can pass through birth and great pain and recover to take care of her family. A woman is working as hard as a man at a job place and she deserve the same pay, the same treatment. A woman ‘should not be allowed to vote, to drive, to go outside by herself’ it should be a normal thing to do like a man does it. A woman and a man are both humans with different qualities that put together can make the world a better place. Feminism should not exist. Because women should not have to fight for sexes equality. Sexes equality should just be. I wish I could live the day when that happens. Unfortunately I think it went from bad to better (again, depending where you live in the world) but we still need a lot of work to reach the top. One thing that you can do towards sexes equality: treat girls as you treat boys! Raise girls by showing them that they don’t need their dad with the gun but that they can take care of themselves just like boys do. Or show boys that they can be heart broken too and it’s ok to cry about it. Boys and girls are equal! And so are women and men!

Material to read/watch:

Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher

Not Without My Daughter by Betty MahmoodyΒ 

Princess: A True Story of Life Behind the Veil in Saudi Arabia

Audrie & Daisy

Thanks for reading!

CB.